I know that fashion is not the most important thing in the world, but it is fun. And beyond that, fashion gives you a real opportunity to say something about who you are. The truth is, like it or not, your sense of style (or lack thereof) says something.
Don’t come for me, internet, I’m just calling it as I see it!
Of course, having no style doesn’t say that you’re a slob or a bad person (because, honestly, no style or bad style is just that), but it does say that you’re not interested in pulling your look together in a thoughtful or interesting way.
As a self-confessed fashionista, although I don’t make love to my clothes, I certainly have a lot of fun putting looks together. I think about what I’m putting on my body and the image I want to convey. What’s that image? I want people to see a thoughtful, fashionable, creative, and sometimes edgy person.
On some occasions, I’ll dress casually and other times I’ll go all out! It depends on whether I’m headed for a guitar lesson (very casual!), going out at night (decked out and fancy!), or anything in between! Check out my Instagram and let me know if you think I pull it off!
Here’s a scenic view of some of my looks…But, enough about me, let’s talk about the fashion mistakes that you might be making…
1. Exclusively buying ‘fast fashion.’
Fast fashion is the clothing that you buy in chain retail stores. They pump out “styles” at the speed of light, almost always the next day or even sometimes ahead of a fashion week. Truthfully, we all have some fast fashion in our wardrobe. For me, it’s like candy: I don’t have it every day, but when I do it tastes artificially good. So, because it’s not the best for my personal style, I try not to make it a regular thing. I mostly buy vintage or thrifted clothing, and that ensures that my style is very personal and not something that I feel can be replicated easily. I highly doubt anyone is going to turn up in this stunning vintage colourful check blazer, as it’s one of a kind:
The point I’m making is this: although ‘slow fashion’ (which is thrifting, vintage, artisan and ethically curated shopping) takes time and effort, it’s good for your sense of style. Your style tells a story. Don’t you want it to be a unique one?
2. Not seeing the big picture.
If you’ve seen any ladies who have a personal style that’s elegant, chic, effortless and put together, then you must know that it probably took them years to get there. They became stylish, they weren’t born that way! It took years of carefully curating their wardrobe for it to become what you saw and admired in them. So, don’t think, not for one second, that personal style is ‘effortless’ from the get-go. It’s all about slowly building on classic ‘basics’ and being thoughtful about everything you purchase. I know because not to toot my own horn, but I have pieces in my wardrobe that I bought ten years ago, and they still look good. Why? Because they’re timeless and they express my sense of style (which is classic, very colourful and somewhat edgy).
3. Buying too little ( aka “The Extreme Minimalist”).
I know that being a minimalist is cool and fashionable these days, and sure, they have a point (when you think of eco-sustainability) but can your wardrobe really sustain you for all facets of life? Minimalists will say ‘dress for your life,’ and ‘only buy what you need,’ but that can change very quickly. I’m not saying buy up the stores to have something for every occasion, but I am saying have some key pieces that do double or triple duty so that when you get that special invitation (professionally or personally), you’re ready.
And that leads me to my next fashion mistake…
4. Limiting your wardrobe.
Your wardrobe should add miles to your social life, not take away from it. So, to put it simply, if you’re only dressing for your day job (whether it’s corporate or in a factory or a full-time/24/7 mommy duty kind of job) then you are seriously not opening yourself up to all the possibilities that life has to offer. If you want a dating life or you want to go to new places, and all you have are your grey slacks and your white button-down or your gym gear, then what are you going to do with that limited wardrobe? Having the right outfit for every occasion will really allow you to live a life on your own terms, without any excuses.
5. Investing in the wrong pieces.
The thing about impulse buying is that, although the piece you’re purchasing (whether it’s a frilly blouse or a wild pair of jeans) look good, they don’t fit in with the rest of your closet. The key to thoughtful buying and dressing is thinking about how you can make sure that everything that gains entrance into your wardrobe can fit in with the crowd. Can that new blouse, pants or blazer make at least three outfits? Does that new piece have your back, or are you going to only wear it once? I ask myself these questions before I buy a new blazer (which are my weakness), skirt or trousers. It’s important!
6. Trying to look like a model or a celebrity.
This is a big one! A lot of people try to look like other models, celebs, or even influencers, and that’s an impossible goal because they’re not you! Not only do you likely have different body types, but you and they have different style preferences, ways of living, and different…well, everything! It’s so important to discover yourself (as a human being) and dressing as yourself is part of that process.
So, those are my 6 fashion mistakes that you’re making. Hopefully, it’ll help the people out there who are on the fence about dressing more thoughtfully.
If you’re interested in more detailed posts about how to have a whole-rounded wardrobe (including bags, shoes, and, of course, clothing) then stick around. More posts are coming! Also, more beauty, food, and lifestyle posts are definitely on the way too!
Did I miss anything? Let me know what you think!